What if the pain you’re feeling is actually a message? In this soul-stirring, mind-expanding episode, Sarah Jordan-Ross sits down with Alexander Oxford—founder of the Mind Paradigm and co-founder of Spine First Chiropractic and Wellness—to explore how our physical symptoms, emotional experiences, and conscious choices are deeply intertwined. From a debilitating injury at 12 to leading healing work that blends fascia science, NLP, hypnosis, and energetic frequency, Alexander shares his journey from pain to purpose. This episode dives into big questions around legacy, leadership, healing, and consciousness—while staying grounded in stories, laughter, and a few rabbit holes.
“If you don’t feel your problem, how do you know what to do?” – Alexander Oxford
“We are powerful creators. Healing is possible—one belief, one breath, one action at a time.” – Sarah Jordan-Ross
“Every time you make a decision, you’re tuning into a new frequency.” – Alexander Oxford
Sarah Jordan-Ross (00:01) Hey everybody, welcome back to Taboo Talk with Sarah, the podcast that breaks the silence, fosters hope and talks about the tough stuff so you never feel alone. If you're new here, I'm Sarah, I'm a wife, a mum to three amazing boys, a wellness coach and I believe deeply in the power of story to heal, connect and inspire. And today I'm joined by someone whose story and work beautifully bridges science, mindset and healing.
And we're going to have a lot of fun in this conversation because Alex is not only an amazing practitioner and healer, he's also a friend. We were introduced by his partner, Holly, who you'll actually hear from in an upcoming episode in a few weeks. Alex and I have also shared virtual stages on the Hero Makers Summit and the Los Angeles Tribune summits. And I'm really looking forward to this conversation because
We always have a lot of fun and tend to go down a rabbit hole or two as well. Alex is the founder of the Mind Paradigm, a co-founder of Spine First Chiropractic and Wellness and a director at Spina Practic Massage Academy. He's a trainer, a speaker and a practitioner who's helped thousands shift from pain to purpose. And we get to hear his story today.
Alex, thank you for joining me.
Alexander Oxford (01:24)
Thank you for having me here. Really, really honored to be here with you, Sarah. This is awesome. I've been looking forward to having this conversation with you and going down maybe a few rabbit holes.
Sarah Jordan-Ross (01:35)
considering we have similar backgrounds and similar journeys to discovering what we learned for ourselves but also how we help other people. I was massage therapist for 25 years.
and learnt lots of interesting things along the way. Now, both of us know that those hard journeys sometimes become what shapes us. And while we wouldn't necessarily choose to have those experiences, we wouldn't be without what they gave us either. So, can you start with sharing your story and what led you to doing the amazing work that you do now?
Alexander Oxford (02:15)
Yes, my story began with a massive blessing. Okay, I call it a blessing, a massive blessing of debilitation. Okay, now people will say, wow, is this a blessing? Right? Now, when I was, I was debilitated at the age of 12. And what happened is that we were supposed to play squash, well, I was supposed to play squash with another few friends from school. And the teacher brought us to the squash courts.
Sarah Jordan-Ross (02:21)
Yep.
Alexander Oxford (02:41)
And what happened is that I barely even did one stroke and it felt like someone came along, stabbed me in the back with two machetes and wrecked wrenched them down to my to my legs. And it's like I was frozen and could not move. It was like turned as wide as a ghost. And my friend freaked out. He thought I was possessed or something like that. So he went to grab the teacher.
They picked me up, put me in the back of a station wagon. Now back then we could be put in the station wagon because we didn't have as many laws. was that restrictions? Exactly, exactly. And then they put me on the couch. Now, a 12 year old, know, the stresses that we have as 12 is obviously very different to the ones that we have as an adult. However,
Sarah Jordan-Ross (03:17)
Rules and regulations. Rules and regulations.
Alexander Oxford (03:36)
The universal one came up. How did I go to the bathroom? Right. Exactly. So I needed to I don't know how I struggled to get on my hands and knees, but I couldn't ask my mum because she was riddled with arthritis. So she wasn't going to help me out. I wasn't exactly a light kid. But that was at work. There was no one around. So I had to do this myself. And I tell you what, that moment.
Sarah Jordan-Ross (03:41)
concern.
Alexander Oxford (04:02)
you bring about with yourself some resources that you never thought you had. So I had to really bring those resources out to get myself on the hands and knees because the last thing I wanted to do is do this on the couch. I didn't want to go on the couch. My mum would have had a lot to clean up and I don't think she would have appreciated it too much. So here I am, my hand is in
Sarah Jordan-Ross (04:24)
No, and as a 12 year old, you would
have been so embarrassed.
Alexander Oxford (04:28)
Yeah, exactly. Exactly. It's one of the most embarrassing things you can do when you're 12 or even as an adult. know, don't want to be doing that either. So as I was crawling to the bathroom, not only was I in pain, but also I was in hysterics of laughter because obviously the body just brings out these amazing chemicals. OK, there's nitric oxide all over the place.
And it's like laughing gas. So I'm hearing the hysterics and also pain, crawling. But the biggest thing, the biggest thing that happened is what was happening in my mind at the time. Because immediately my whole focus turned into, I want to be strong. I want to be lean. I want to be in control. These are the three things that really, really
came up for me. As I was crawling, it was just this mantra, I want to be lean, want to be strong, I want to be in control. Eventually got myself to the bathroom and afterwards when my dad came home, they brought me to the hospital to get checked out. And I'm very grateful that my mind went through this complete paradigm shift, because that paradigm shift got me thinking very differently.
It got me thinking in a weird way, I became a weird kid because I started questioning things that people weren't questioning. So that's weird, of course, you know, why would you want to question things, right? Just do as you're told. Exactly, exactly. So when I was at the hospital and they did x-rays and put the rubber glove on, I don't have to go any further than that one.
Sarah Jordan-Ross (06:04)
What?
Alexander Oxford (06:16)
to check to see what was going on. there was, they're diagnosed with this thing called ischemic necrosis, Sherman's disease, okay, which is, but at the same time they said, it's the pain is not characteristic of the Sherman's, right? But anyway, so I asked questions. How do I create this? How do I make, how do I do this? How do I make this happen? But I put responsibility to myself. How did I do this?
Right? Now, all he could say is that this is something that happens from birth. And I got really confused because I'm like, no one's ever taken the x-rays of my spine from birth. And so I was actually quite curious. How do you know that? It's a genetic thing. said, well, how do you know that? I generally want to know. How do you know that? And I couldn't get the answers.
And later on down the track, as we go down the rabbit hole, now I know why they couldn't give me the answers. so that was a smile. Look, just all you need to do is have some pain relief. I'm like, well, I'm not asking for that. I'm asking to know firstly, how did I do this? So I don't repeat it. And secondly, what can I do to get on top of this? Because remember, my mantra was be strong, be in control and be lean. All right.
So my mum was saying, listen to the doctor, listen to the doctor. She was getting frustrated because at the time, my parents came from a background where doctors were here, God was here, and we were like deeply Catholic, but still, doctor was here, God was here, and humans were somewhere in the gutter, right? Exactly.
Sarah Jordan-Ross (08:02)
Yep. And some things we just don't question.
Alexander Oxford (08:06)
So listen, listen, I'm saying, I am listening, I'm listening really closely. That's why I'm asking questions. But all I'm getting is that they're gonna give me a pill to stop the pain. That makes no sense to me. I'm like, if I don't feel my problem, how do I know what to do? That was logic to me. I guess I turned weird.
Sarah Jordan-Ross (08:28)
somewhere as...
was weird or that as young children tend to you still were listening to the signals that your body was giving you and taking it that pain is an indication that there's a problem it's a message to you it's not something in and of itself to be fixed it's that signal and when we listen to what our bodies telling us and give it what it needs amazing things can happen
Alexander Oxford (08:50)
Yeah. Yeah.
Absolutely, absolutely. I just didn't know at the time how deep that ran, yeah, because that's later on we'll go deeper into the rabbit hole on that message. So I started listening and I was very lucky though, because my mum said, look, why don't you go talk to your uncle? Right. And all I knew about my uncle is that he did that funny massage stuff.
That's all I knew. He just did that funny little stuff, right? And so I listened to him and he actually the only one that made sense. Like I asked these questions to a lot of people. So when I asked my uncle, he had the answers. So he just went straight to logic. He goes, okay, look, they said you got ischemic necrosis. This is what it means. Death to your bone tissue due to black blood supply.
Sarah Jordan-Ross (09:23)
Imagine that.
Alexander Oxford (09:47)
Okay, so therefore if the blood supply goes there, then you won't have lack of blood supply. Now let me have a feel. And he felt my spine, felt the muscles and he felt what he, the first person who actually mentioned the word fascia and fascia was this voodoo taboo thing, know, what are you doing? You know, this is voodoo magic. What are you doing?
Sarah Jordan-Ross (10:16)
Me too woo woo, don't go talking about that.
Alexander Oxford (10:18)
talking about fascia and he was saying how the fascia wraps around muscle, wraps around the bones, wraps around everything and it's protective and when something's happening the fascia gets all twisted up and when it gets all twisted up because it's trying to protect you at the same time it's lacking blood flow in these areas and what we need to do is we need to
Sarah Jordan-Ross (10:46)
move it out.
Alexander Oxford (10:46)
mobilize it out. You know, he talked to
me in Italian at the time. So I'm translating this way in the way that he was explaining it to me. And it made so much sense. It's like, wow, let's do that. So as he was getting in there, there's no doubt he was seeing me three times a week. was mobilizing or unwinding the fascia. Okay. And, also stimulating muscles, getting blood flow into that.
And it was painful, there's no doubt about that, because he got into the areas that my body was struggling. However, he got me back on my feet.
in a way that I was like, felt, was starting to feel better than what I was before. I was like, not even realising that the transition of getting to that place, I wasn't even consciously aware of those little pains and things like that, because we get distracted with other stuff. And this is amazing. So I kept seeing my uncle, even when I wasn't feeling
that pain anymore, I kept going. I kept being diligent in that way because it's like, well, what if it's there and I don't even realize it consciously like before I didn't realize it. What if it's still there? And then when he checked me, he'd find these spots even when I had those conscious symptoms. Does that make sense? It would make sense to you. You'd been a Mass Artistician or you get too many people that come in think, I'm fine.
Sarah Jordan-Ross (12:07)
Yeah, it does.
realize that they're hurting until you push on something and you go out and your uncle was kind of a little ahead of his time in that back then, yeah, we didn't talk much about fascia. Now we understand it way better because the science is catching up to what some instinct, the best explanation for fascia I ever heard. Picture it like a layer of
glad wrap that just wraps gently around all of your muscles and your internal organs to protect them and it slides over them and lets them move and it sends messages from one place to another. Now take that same piece of glad wrap, like glad wrap, it's like glad wrap when you stretch it tight over a bowl and you could bounce a coin off it. Take that same piece of glad wrap but before you stretch it and put it over the bowl, clap your hands. Picture that icky sticky
Alexander Oxford (13:00)
Yes.
Sarah Jordan-Ross (13:10)
mess of plastic that you've just got to go, ⁓ I can't get it. That's restricted fascia. And the problems that it causes are huge.
Alexander Oxford (13:11)
Alright. Alright.
Uh-huh. Absolutely. Oh, it's coming.
There are, there are. They're so huge that it was like, like in 2016, do you remember what happened? Like the science thought they found another organ. Do you remember this story? It's really, it can't really see it anymore, but they thought they found a new organ and they called it interstitial. Okay. Remember that?
Sarah Jordan-Ross (13:34)
Yeah.
interstitial tissue.
Alexander Oxford (13:43)
And it's like
this new organ and all this stuff. And as we're explaining this organ and what it does, so many fascia practitioners around the world are like, we're talking about fascia. You know that voodoo stuff you were talking about? Yeah, this is the stuff that we were talking about. The innate intelligence that we have in our palpation skills, we were feeling all this. We feel all this stuff. however,
When you're looking through microscopes and when you're looking through all these scientific machines, machines, to be able to see things through that, it takes a lot longer than you being able to use your innate intelligence because the innate intelligence has been there from day one, always been there, always will be there, and always is here. And it's never going to be destroyed, as you were saying before, because it's energy. And the thing is,
the machines that we create as humans are never going to be as good as that innate intelligence. And this is the things that we unfortunately rely on, that these machines are going to find things better than my brain scanning itself. Okay, we'll talk about that in a little bit.
Sarah Jordan-Ross (14:56)
although we're starting to realize
that, yep, we can go there, the science is starting to catch up to that innate knowledge and realize that we are all interconnected. Because there was a time when everything was separate, but now we're realizing, no, every single thing is interconnected and.
Alexander Oxford (15:04)
Yeah. Yeah.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Sarah Jordan-Ross (15:22)
The best way to get healing for the body is when you look at it on that whole level. It's not just you've got a problem with your ankle, it's what is that problem with your ankle causing in other parts of your body? Or there's a great book by Bessel Van Der Kok, The Body Keeps the Score. Your body stores everything, it stores information. And
Alexander Oxford (15:42)
Yes, yes.
Yeah. Yeah.
Yeah.
Sarah Jordan-Ross (15:49)
It's usually pretty good at healing itself when we give it the right tools, but it's dealing with those emotions. And what I love is your work with the Mind Paradigm, but also that we say that the nervous system and the energy system, they're just two different languages describing the same thing. Those ideas are not as separate as we'd like to think. There is a lot of overlap there.
Alexander Oxford (16:14)
No.
they talk the same language because they communicate to each other.
We're the ones who put the separation there.
And, but that's the thing that Newtonian physics was all about. Yeah. Yeah, exactly. We talked about Newtonian physics was all about how particles interact with each other. So therefore science went down that path of in the body. that was based on inanimate matter. Okay. So that's, but when they put the same theory in animate matter.
Sarah Jordan-Ross (16:23)
Yeah. Which we now realize.
Alexander Oxford (16:48)
Okay, with where there's life. Now it works really differently with his life. However, that's what how they're looking and they're still doing that today is that they're seeing how the particles react. So this is what happened. This is what's happening at the particles. If we can change that reaction, then we've helped it not and then they'll say that by changing that, then it'll help us consciously and not seeing it from the other part of it where or what's happening consciously.
and looking at the downward causation. As Dr. Guzwami calls it, they're looking at the upward causation, not the downward causation. And we want to integrate and marry both of those together because what's happening in our consciousness, and this is where NLP came along and hypnosis, our consciousness affects our state, our physiology affects our state, and they're all interconnected. And this is how we eventually are vibrating.
in a certain way, which then we start being attracted to certain things and so forth. And I know I'm going ahead of myself here. However, that's a really, really interesting rabbit hole that I went down in regards to my healing because we started off physically, talked about fascia, as you probably know a little bit about my story where I've
Sarah Jordan-Ross (17:55)
You're right.
Alexander Oxford (18:12)
I learnt about fascia with Patricia Farnsworth. It was the queen of fascia at the time in the early 90s. This was back in 92. Then I learnt that and I did this amazing unwinding weekend where we started learning as the fascia unwinds, it's not just the physical thing that it was holding onto, it was the emotional trauma that you haven't yet.
resolved. And so therefore, as that fascia outwound, I'd see a lot of people in that weekend go through massive emotional experiences. I saw one going into a fetal position because her trauma was all the way down there. And then that's another thing that really blew me away is that I started learning
that we've kept these things from day zero. It's not just acute things. We've kept these things from day zero. And how many things have we held onto that have affected our function and performance that we've put down as it's my genes. It's just the way I am instead of really saying that, hey, that trauma that I experienced in the womb.
or through the birthing process or between day up until I was seven, there's so much shaping of consciousness, of the unconscious mind as well, that is stored in my body. How much of that am I carrying as an adult thinking that this is just who I am? And we will put a label on ourselves and identify ourselves through these diseases. Yeah.
Sarah Jordan-Ross (19:56)
Yes.
Alexander Oxford (19:58)
And so I never identified myself as the guy with back pain. Never ever. Okay, because my mantra was being strong, being lean and being in control. And that's what I was focusing on all through all through that time. But that, as I said, led me now to a rabbit hole of emotions and this thing called the mind. And what is it? What is it? Where is it?
Thanks!
Sarah Jordan-Ross (20:26)
Yeah. And it's a fun rabbit hole to go down. think
it's partly like all of that joined together is what's led you to the work that you do now with the mind paradigm, which is very much about taking what's going on physically and what's going on mentally and emotionally and looking at that whole picture. You use NLP, you talk.
Alexander Oxford (20:48)
Absolutely.
Sarah Jordan-Ross (20:51)
vibration and mindset science because these things do not have to be mutually exclusive quite often it is a it's not an either or conversation it's a both end.
Alexander Oxford (20:53)
Yes.
Yeah, yeah, it's everything. Yeah, yeah.
Sarah Jordan-Ross (21:03)
And
we've learnt science recently because there was a time when we thought our genes, yep, pre-programmed, you've got a genetic predisposition to something, you're going to have it. But we now know that that's not entirely the case. That our thoughts and our emotions can influence how our genes
Alexander Oxford (21:18)
Mm-hmm.
for that.
Sarah Jordan-Ross (21:29)
present themselves.
Alexander Oxford (21:30)
Yeah, absolutely. And you look at the work of Bruce Lipton and talks about epigenetics. And there's a subject that I've studied also in the quantum university, which is awesome. And he talks about epigenetics and he was part of the, he was talking about the genome project, how that blew everyone away and it blew the whole theory or the whole hypothesis of
Sarah Jordan-Ross (21:37)
love him
Alexander Oxford (21:57)
of gene theory. And by the way, gene theory was always in the hypothesis.
It was never a fact. It was always an hypothesis. Even the guy, I can't even remember his name, it's just gone off the top of my head. The person who actually hypothesized this. Ah, there we go. Victor. There we go. There we go. Thank you so much. Thank you so much. Yes, thank you so much for that. And he was saying it's only an hypothesis. It doesn't mean.
Sarah Jordan-Ross (22:03)
because we hadn't proved it yet.
Mendel?
Gregor Mendel came up with, what, was the father of Mendelian genetics?
Yeah.
Alexander Oxford (22:33)
So I'm gonna...
Sarah Jordan-Ross (22:33)
studying pace.
Alexander Oxford (22:34)
Yes, yes. So anyway, with someone thought this is a good idea. This is going to sell some a lot of products. So we'll take it on board as as dogma and they call it dogma, by the way. It's a really interesting, interesting thing. So but that's a huge thing that you've said that you've that you've come across is because
if we really, really want to go down that rabbit hole. And I did. I went down the rabbit hole of genes and I asked myself, how far down the genealogical line do we stop to blame our problems? Because you can't just say it's your parents. Where do they get it from? There's two sets of parents. There's four sets of grandparents. OK. Where do they come from? So who do we blame here? And whose genetics?
Sarah Jordan-Ross (23:18)
Keeps going.
Alexander Oxford (23:25)
And the thing is, we blame, depending on where people go from, I'm a person of God, you know, do you blame the person who created perfection?
Is that, is that who we blame? Or people who come up with a big bang theory, does the big bang theory come up, come and say, I'm going to give this person these genes and this person these genes. And like it, it's, it's, it's madness when you really, really go down that rabbit hole of what does it actually mean when someone says it's genetic? What does it really, really, really mean? And if you don't go down that rabbit hole, then you can't say,
it's genetic because you have to go down that if you truly believe it.
Sarah Jordan-Ross (24:10)
you
can't trace it. There is times though that a genetic mutation will just be a spontaneous mutation. It's not always that you can track it through the generations but quite often.
Alexander Oxford (24:12)
Thank
And that's the thing, and that's the thing
with our unique fingerprint, right? Because you go down the genes, no one's got your fingerprint.
Sarah Jordan-Ross (24:30)
And yet we can, through mitochondrial DNA, trace back to common ancestry.
Alexander Oxford (24:34)
Yeah.
Yeah, well, we've done that through MoanSector.com has done that and some other places have done that as well. And it's quite interesting when people get shocked on what race they are.
Sarah Jordan-Ross (24:47)
It just goes to show we're a whole lot more connected than we think we are.
Alexander Oxford (24:53)
We certainly are. certainly are. And that's the thing. And if we don't explore that rabbit hole, we just put labels. And those labels make us lazy. And the thing is, my whole focus was I need to unlabel myself. How many labels have I placed on myself? Because that label now becomes a limiting belief. I'm far greater than that.
our creator is far greater than that. And if we don't respect that, then we all we're putting his labels and it's like, well, how much it's amazing how many labels we put on ourselves when we have these beliefs that are especially our healing. It's a huge, huge thing because this is where I want to talk about now, and frequency. Is because if we really, really have a look at
matter, our matter and where and how it interacts. It interacts through this amazing thing called frequency. But when we look at see when we look at things what are we looking what are we actually seeing?
Sarah Jordan-Ross (25:58)
their vibration.
Alexander Oxford (25:58)
So
we're only seeing waves, aren't we? We're seeing waves of colors, okay, which is a frequency. And we put all these frequencies together and then we make them pictures. But we make them pictures, not out there, we make them pictures in here and we see it out there. Now, not only with that, that combines at the same time with the sound waves that come in into our hearing.
And then what else that comes in is that the waves of smell, gustatory and feelings. All this is coming in, billions of information is coming in every second. And somehow we have to decipher what we're hearing, seeing, feeling at every moment. And we create these internal images, internal representations as we call them.
And that internal representation now is what we think is happening. Exactly. And if you think about that, that now has an infinite, infinite source of possibilities of what is happening. Because there's billions of information coming in. We've just tuned into a certain frequency.
Sarah Jordan-Ross (26:59)
and it filters out into what we do.
Alexander Oxford (27:21)
And then that frequency filters out into every single cell of our body through the electrical information in our spine, then goes into the chemical process. But it's all frequency coming from inwards or outwards. And this is where it becomes really, really interesting. Is it really coming inwards or are we actually just seeing it outwards? This is the interesting scenario because we start talking about Neoplatos Cave where he was
You he saw this, what we're seeing is just a shadow of ourselves in life. Now we talk about, Ted James will talk about perception is projection. But all we're seeing is ourselves through a projection booth. There's nothing, there's nothing out there that we're seeing that's not coming from our brain, which is quite interesting, right?
Sarah Jordan-Ross (28:12)
view things will be different depending on what our experiences have been because our experiences color how we view and see things.
Alexander Oxford (28:22)
And that's another great thing is that the experience that we went through, that experience in itself had an infinite source of possibilities of what an experience, and it just, there's a massive rabbit hole.
Sarah Jordan-Ross (28:34)
Yep. That could get scary.
Alexander Oxford (28:36)
It can,
it really, really can. However, the beauty of that, and this is where we have been given this amazing thing called the freedom of choice, the free will. We've been given free will and that free will has given us the ability to ask ourselves, what do I want to tune into?
Not what do I have to tune into. What do I want to tune into? And it just becomes this amazing, and that's where I was saying with the rabbit hole, from listening to my body to then starting to pay attention to my body has it's just been telling me what I've been feeding it.
And I remember when I first found this one of the sources of the emotions that I had, which was sadness. As we were doing the fashion release and as I resolved sadness, this amazing thing happened that I used to look at people as a kid and as a teenager that everyone was sad.
I'm like, everyone's everyone's faking their smile. Everyone's faking this happiness. All I could see in people's, in the closer I looked, right, all I could see is their sadness. But when I resolved my sadness, I couldn't see that anymore.
So my body was just giving me feedback.
Sarah Jordan-Ross (29:59)
Thanks.
and it does that all the time.
Alexander Oxford (30:03)
Yeah, yeah. And that was one of the biggest pivotal moments of my life. What else am I doing? What else am I projecting out onto people? And that's where the whole going down the, that's where I chose Ted James as my teacher in NLP, timeline therapy, and chemotherapy in regards to the way he taught perception as projection.
and not only taught it as a symptom, he actually taught it through his inner soul. And that's how we, that was his motto. And that's something that really resonated. So the more we explored that, the more I'm like, wow, there's more to this hypnosis than I thought there was. Yeah.
Sarah Jordan-Ross (30:50)
And it's amazing when science meets soul. And that's what a lot of your work does is that blending of the two and bringing together our mindset, our emotions, our physical experience. So all of what we've been talking about gave birth to the mind paradigm, which is the amazing work that you're doing now. So do you want to unpack that a little bit for us?
Alexander Oxford (31:14)
Yes. Sure.
Absolutely. Absolutely. Cause I did work, in regards to the mind paradigm, I do a lot of work with what I call neurofrequency meditation, neurofrequency hypnosis, because we're tapping into, the frequency in which you want to dial into. this is a, this is a big thing. It's like, if you like our brain,
is a beacon, it's this amazing, like an antenna. Now, if you really start, yeah, it's a big, big, amazing, amazing thing. So when we start asking ourselves, what is it? What's the life that I truly want to live? What you're dialing into is a certain frequency of your life. Now, when you think of that, we've been here all the time, but we start thinking to ourselves, back then, if I made this decision,
Sarah Jordan-Ross (31:45)
It's a big battery.
Alexander Oxford (32:08)
my life could have gone here. What are we tuning into? We're tuning into a certain frequency, a certain station. Or we're thinking about, if I chose this instead, this is what my life would have looked like. And we go through as we, the sliding doors situation, right? Where you can see yourself in different scenarios. What that is, is that seeing yourself through the infinite, infinite possibilities of what your life could be and where your life
Sarah Jordan-Ross (32:32)
possibility.
Alexander Oxford (32:37)
But some people even will say, your life goes through, all these possibilities are happening right here, right now, every single one of them. But the one that you're living is the one that you're choosing, is the radio station that you're tuning into. And once you realize that and you really, really get a grasp of that, you're no longer living a life of a victim. You're living a life as a creator.
You're a life as an architect. And when you start looking at, can actually be an architect of my life, really. Like, I don't have to live with all the traumas. I don't have to live with all that stuff. And once you start really, really getting that, it's like, no, we don't have to, unless we choose to live in that frequency. And a lot of times we don't even realize that it's a choice.
Sarah Jordan-Ross (33:15)
Thanks.
it's amazing when you start to realize that you do have a choice that if you're not liking the way things are you have the capacity to make a different decision and I used to love a quote that when you make a decision the universe or whatever you don't team there turn the higher power
Alexander Oxford (33:31)
Thank
Yes.
Sarah Jordan-Ross (33:58)
It conspires to make it happen. So when you make that choice, everything around it shifts because you've chosen, I'm going this way. Not any of the other hundred choices you could have had.
Alexander Oxford (34:07)
Yeah. Yeah. Cause
what have we done? We tuned into a new radio station. That's what we, our frequency has gone to a completely different station. And what happens, is a lot of times we say these things like, I can now connect the dots of my life now that I made this choice. Because what we do when we tune into a frequency, everything in the past,
changes because there's new lessons that in our timeline, the way we stored our memories were based upon the frequency in which we were on. You change that frequency, now that stronghold we have on those things have now dissolved. It's like static, the static just dissolves. And what we see is a brand new lesson, always sees a brand new resource coming up that aligns
with your new frequency. And then when you look at your future, your whole future lines up with your new frequency. And that's all got to do with decision. We picked up the remote control to our live and we created that decision. We changed stations or we dialed it in. And now, as you said, when you make that decision, everything conspires.
And how beautiful is that?
Sarah Jordan-Ross (35:25)
amazing. Now you and I have both seen and spoken about how powerful collaboration can be. So when you've got multiple people making a particular choice. So whether it's in spaces like Hero Makers or the Tribune Summits or even sometimes just the conversations that we've had or that others have had about
Alexander Oxford (35:27)
It's just me.
Yeah.
Sarah Jordan-Ross (35:49)
collaborating. There seems to be that ripple effect when you get lots of people all vibrating at that same frequency and wanting to achieve something. Now both Hero Makers and the Tribune we've done a lot of stuff on legacy and leadership and actually for us walking our talk. So when I say
Alexander Oxford (35:50)
Yes.
So moving.
Absolutely.
Sarah Jordan-Ross (36:15)
leadership and legacy after everything that you've been through, what did those words actually mean for you? And how do you see all that we've talked about so far today playing into that?
Alexander Oxford (36:23)
They actually didn't.
Yeah.
100%. So I needed to become the leader of my life. I needed to lead the way through trusting, having massive faith that inside was that communication of, yes, I can heal myself. Yes, I just listening to that, faith. I needed to be the leader of that because a lot of people didn't understand it. And from that,
To leave, what legacy and leadership means to me is that to be able to teach others to do that for themselves.
because you don't want to indoctrinate people, do what I say and just do it and so forth. There's no doubt. Now, when you're a parent and sometimes kids don't understand and they have to do what you tell them because they don't understand because the younger they are, they just run in front of the road and you have to grab them. It's not because... Yep, exactly. And a lot of the times they're not
Sarah Jordan-Ross (37:27)
Yep. Have to give him boundaries.
Alexander Oxford (37:32)
conscious concepts that they understand. Okay. And therefore it's very different as you, as you become an adult. we want to be able to get through people to be their own leaders instead of do as I say, because if you just do as I say, it might not be the path that you need to go down. path that you have with me for myself is that I'm part of
the healing process of you becoming the leader for yourself. And that's where, with the mind paradigm, we go through that process. Sure, we go through these meditations, we go through personal breakthroughs, but we have like the mentors academy where people can come in and learn how to become great, mentors for others. Because now that we've gone through the process of being mentored, healing yourself and
going through the process. Now it's about giving back and now learning the tools to go out there and mentor others through this whole process. And that ripple effect starts taking place where that person now, who knows how many people they're going to help and then those people who knows how many people and so forth, that's the beauty.
about the way I see leadership and legacy is that we don't really do it for the legacy, we do it for helping people lead their own lives fully consciously, really waking up the conscious mind because to live a conscious life is accepting all the beauty that life has.
Sarah Jordan-Ross (39:18)
it has a lot and life is meant to be lived and legacy is one of those things that you don't want it to be what you leave after you're gone you want it to be what you live now
Alexander Oxford (39:32)
Now, yeah, yeah. But we can go down that river hole of space and time, right? You know, does it really exist? And if it doesn't, well, if it really does, how do we know and how can you prove it? It's all in your mind, right? When you look at your past, where do you go? You go in your mind. When you look at the future, where do you go? You go in your mind. It's like, where actually is it?
Sarah Jordan-Ross (39:38)
Yeah.
right?
In your
Alexander Oxford (39:59)
So, exactly. So the question is, are we beings going through space and time, or is space and time going through us?
Sarah Jordan-Ross (39:59)
It's in you!
Yeah.
Alexander Oxford (40:10)
And that's the other rabbit hole where you can go down because it's like, well, really, if everything is happening right here right now from all the quantum possibilities, infinite source of quantum possibilities, then is there such a time other than right now?
Sarah Jordan-Ross (40:29)
There's an interesting thought.
Alexander Oxford (40:30)
And you can put like, can go, but I've been there. I'm like, well, in your mind. So that's the thing. That's the thing is that have really, the mind can, as I said, the mind can play tricks. If you don't take charge, you have to be conscious. The consciousness is the captain. The mind just big puts stuff in there that the captain has told it.
Sarah Jordan-Ross (40:34)
you
Alexander Oxford (40:54)
And everywhere you look at, you're looking at your mind because you've built it. You were the architect from day zero. You may not have, but because you didn't know it, you weren't steering the ship too well. Once we start saying, yes, I'm the captain, now we can start learning. Now we can start getting our license to lead. Exactly. Exactly.
Sarah Jordan-Ross (41:15)
Now we can start steering the ship properly.
Now one question I always ask everybody and it's I think it's a good one for us to end on today as well. What's the one conversation you think we should be having that we're not?
Alexander Oxford (41:29)
For me, I'm very biased and it's about the conversation of consciousness. That's the conversation that we should be having because there's diverse thinking and we should be able to really have deep discussions. Is that when we're thinking what we're thinking, what is it that we're thinking when we're thinking that?
Where is it coming from? They're the conversations that we need to have more and more because if we don't, we'll be identifying ourselves as labels and not as architects, as people that are here to design their life. Does that make sense?
Sarah Jordan-Ross (42:08)
does. But we are powerful creators and we need to remember that.
Alexander Oxford (42:09)
So that's... Yeah. Yeah.
Sarah Jordan-Ross (42:17)
So I want to thank you again for sharing your wisdom with us, for going down a rabbit hole or two. And for everyone listening, if you're walking through your own season of struggle or transformation, I hope this conversation has reminded you that healing is possible.
One breath, one belief, one action at a time. Remember, you are a powerful creator and you can create the life that you dream of. So let's keep living our lives like they matter. Keep showing up for ourselves and for each other.
I'm Sarah Jordan Ross, this has been Taboo Talk. Until next time, remember, your story matters, so share it, because you never know, your story might be the one that changes somebody else's. Because we are all intimately connected. Bye for now.
Alexander Oxford (43:20)
Thank you.